I felt like I wanted to talk about my nightmares this evening. As bedtime nears I think about it a lot. Bedtime has always been hard for us. There was even a time  when I fought going to bed, before I got meds to help with it, to fall asleep.

 I would do whatever it took to stay up until I finally past out from two or three days on the go.
My past haunts my sleep. There are times when I can go for months and nothing at all. Then something triggers the nightmares to start up again. I have different kinds of nightmares, some are re-occuring and others are new. Most often they are being about being held down and not being able to get away. I am frozen and can’t walk or run or scream in these nightmares.

For some reason in a lot of them I am not young I am me but I feel very small and childlike. There are times when I am little but not that often. The worse part is waking up and remembering everything and it just sets the day off 
to be bad. It can take the whole day sometimes to shake the feelings of the nightmares. I really hate those ones the most. 
 
Then there are the ones when you wake up screaming in terror and fear and can’t move. It can take us quite awhile to realize that it was only a dream and that it is not really happening. Since I live alone this can be quite scary cause I never had the feeling like I could go to my parents room for safe keeping. There was no safe place as a child.

I remember loving going to school because it was my chance to just get away from it all. I loved school and found my safe in many teachers over the years. I hate looking back and seeing myself as a person on the search for love and safety. These nightmares take the safe out of my life on a regular basis.

There is a gift in all this. I have had to create a  safe place. 
 
This place has become so beautiful over the years as it has developed. Our safe place is a garden. In this garden it is filled with daisies and frogs and turtles. Lots of trees and most are weeping willows. There is a stream of water running through and the Little’s have the most awesome tree swings. There are 2 of them because that way we can bring someone along if we don’t want to be alone.

There is beautiful music playing, with pianos and guitars. There are fairies there too and pretty benches to sit and just read if need be, or to sit and chat with someone. You can smell all the pretty flowers and the scent of vanilla, all the clouds are so white as snow and you can climb up on them and ride through the sky for a nice nap. This place is so safe that we can even close our eyes and feel safe. Cause no one can come here without our permission.

There is also a tree house that is decorated so pretty, even with pink little curtains and tree stumps to sit on. It is very cool in there trust me. There are dolls and teddy bears all around and a tea set too. There is also a treasure chest that is filled with magic wands and fancy dress up clothes. In there we also have a huge toy box and  it is filled with trucks and cars, and transformers, coloring books, and pirate  costumes.

Down under the tree house floor there is a huge sandbox and we  love going there to build the most biggest beautiful castles.
Bethie loves it  here most of all because dragons come and play, but they are not like regular  dragons, these ones breath sparkles. They come to see the castles and take us  for rides, it is so much fun here. We get water from the
clean stream to build  water around the castle walls. 

There is also a bake shop here where you can go and make cookies, muffins, cakes and more. Then all the colors of the rainbow in decorations. The place is always filled with balloons and cool dance music. When you come here you can bake, decorate, dance, and smile.

It is a place that leaves us feeling good inside, safe inside. A chance to get away from the yuckies. There are never any yuckies here, we love this place. 

Thanks for stopping by and visiting our place though words, glad you could be apart of it. 

With every kind wish, Valynn and the Original Kido Bunch

(Insert therapists name here),


You didn’t listen!!! They didn’t listen!!! No one is listening!!!


Result: I am doing AMAZING! WONDERFUL! and nothing less…From now on everyone is gonna hear how great things really are. My life is perfect, full of sunshine and roses and cute little puppies. I couldn’t have asked for a better life! I am full of smiles, hope, faith and dreams! With so many smiles, 


 P.S. I have never been a good liar!

Sarah

 1) How old were you when you started self harming?


9 Years Old


2) How often do you self harm?


I use to do it daily when I was younger, now it seems like I do it in binges.
  Like hardcore for 3-5 days, take a break and then back at it again.


3) What method of self harm do you use?


Cutting mostly.


4) Do you think that you need professional help?


I am getting it now and have been for awhile.


5) Are you trying to stop self harming?


Yes, I am just scared that even if I want to, need to, that it is not enough
  and that I fear I am not ready.


6) Does anyone know about your self harm?


Yes, my family all does, my friends all do, my therapist of course. However I
  started at age nine, as said above and it was almost 12 years before someone
  found out.


7) How many years have you been self harming?


Whoa, until I did the math I had no idea. Self Harm = 24 years.


8) If you self harm, were you abused or neglected (either as a child
  or later in life)?



Yes sexually abused for many years.


9) Would you label yourself as emo?


Nope, not ever close. P.S. For all you uneducated people Emo doesn’t not =
  Cutter/Self Harmer and it goes the other way, Cutter/Self Harmer doen not= Emo.
  This addiction shows no race, creed, religion, lack of religon. It can and does
  affect anyone.


10) Do others label you as emo?


AHA HA HA!! Not that I am aware of and if they do, it sounds like a personal
  problem they need help with, for being judgemental. And they say I have all the
  problems. Whatev! lol


11) Why did you start?


To distract from the fact that my uncle was molesting me/raping me. Giving me
  something other then the abuse to think and feel about.


12) Where do you self harm?


Wrists, arms, thighs.


13) What do you use to self harm yourself?


Blades…and in my opinon this is one of the not so important questions around
  this addiction, Im just sayin’.


14) Do you think you can stop?


Honestly, I am afraid to say it but no. I just think I will have times and
  periods in my life where I don’t do it and other times when I will keep falling
  back on it. But I am hopeful one day will be the last time.


15) Do you want to?


Yes, when I am rational, and no when I am insane.


To those of you who are hurting out there, remember there is hope, there is
  help:

http://www.selfinjury.com/